Just got over watching 'Naach' ... the movie is bogus .. another version of the age-old story 'Abhiman' (featuring Bacchan Sr. & Mother Bacchan)...and some semi-porn stuff added...
But what struck me here is the potrayal of the habit that most boyz/men have(may be even girlz/women have it .. but I aint sure) - a habbit to conceal your emotions...Whether its love or sorrow - men never speak .. and then I dont know why its always that we expect men/boyz to propose to the girl first!!
Leave alone expressing love.. even expressing sorrow is taboo .. and nowadays in the (so-called) civilised world even anger is not a permitted emotion to show (though in the old patriarchial societies anger was taken to be a symbol of manhood) .. so whenever you feel any emotion strongly - back out! Move out of public, escape in loneliness .. and sulk if you would.
All this usually further aggravates your BP (figuratively) and deepens your feelings .. and though one might feel I am stertching it too far but this lonliness might make you a fundamentalist in your thoughts.
If I love someone, I should express it to her openly (sulk! sulk! I wish doing it was as simple as writing ;P). Similarly if I am afraid I should make it clear that I am.. so goes with anger and sorrow .. hiding feelings in my opinion doesn't help..but again I would accept that even I hide my feelings when it comes to me .. its difficult .. very difficult for us to express ourselves because of our upbringing and cultural backgrounds
This is where I feel that it isn't we as individuals who need to learn 'emotion management', but we need to learn to manage others' emotions collecively. The one who is happy needs to be listened to, so is the one who is sad. Anger needs to be cooled off!! and enthusiasm needs to be rewarded .. we need to do all this as a whole and not as individuals ..
But what struck me here is the potrayal of the habit that most boyz/men have(may be even girlz/women have it .. but I aint sure) - a habbit to conceal your emotions...Whether its love or sorrow - men never speak .. and then I dont know why its always that we expect men/boyz to propose to the girl first!!
Leave alone expressing love.. even expressing sorrow is taboo .. and nowadays in the (so-called) civilised world even anger is not a permitted emotion to show (though in the old patriarchial societies anger was taken to be a symbol of manhood) .. so whenever you feel any emotion strongly - back out! Move out of public, escape in loneliness .. and sulk if you would.
All this usually further aggravates your BP (figuratively) and deepens your feelings .. and though one might feel I am stertching it too far but this lonliness might make you a fundamentalist in your thoughts.
If I love someone, I should express it to her openly (sulk! sulk! I wish doing it was as simple as writing ;P). Similarly if I am afraid I should make it clear that I am.. so goes with anger and sorrow .. hiding feelings in my opinion doesn't help..but again I would accept that even I hide my feelings when it comes to me .. its difficult .. very difficult for us to express ourselves because of our upbringing and cultural backgrounds
This is where I feel that it isn't we as individuals who need to learn 'emotion management', but we need to learn to manage others' emotions collecively. The one who is happy needs to be listened to, so is the one who is sad. Anger needs to be cooled off!! and enthusiasm needs to be rewarded .. we need to do all this as a whole and not as individuals ..
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